Lessons – Pushing & Pulling | Conversations with Coaches | Boxer Media

Hello, and welcome to another special episode of the conversations with Coach’s podcast and house special, not sure how special they are anymore. I mean, they could still be special that being rare, I’ve been doing these now for a number of months, we’re getting into the into the low 20s. Now, really enjoying doing this really enjoying processing and not quite regurgitating, but just kind of like turning around and kind of giving some of my reflections and insights on some of the tremendous reflections and insights that you the audience. And my guests, of course, have brought to me over the past 150 episodes of this podcast, I haven’t done all of those myself, but most of them I have, it’s been so weird to say that number out loud, anyway, very pleased to bring you this is just another quote hasn’t quite well. The only reason it hasn’t made it up on my whiteboard yet is because it’s been on my mind the whiteboard of my brain for months now. And it first came to me from a from a guest, who off top my head, her name escapes me, remember, but the quote is from someone named Michael Beckwith. And it’s something that has been, it has stayed with me, it’s kind of come to me from different places too, and prompted you know the way certain bits of wisdom, you’ll kind of get it in one form from one source and then another form from another source. And all of a sudden, you realize you’ve been thinking about something, it’s been kind of changing you for a while. Anyway, I hope that makes sense and feels familiar to you as well. But the quote itself has been sticking with me for a while and got me thinking about the way that when you want to guide someone, you want to provide someone with what they need the most guidance, they need the insights they need the most, especially as a coach, you know, your job is basically to come alongside and guide, you have to learn at least a little something about what is currently driving a person to the quote that I’ve been returning to so frequently.

I think it’s going to be with me for a while. Pain pushes until vision polls. Right elegantly stated way to describe the fact that for the most part, people will be moving forward if they are moving in a direction. And this is again, you know, if they’re at a certain stage of need, there’s an ache, there’s a pain that’s driving them forward, that’s having them ask questions, seeking out coaching, seeking out help in one way or the other that they might need, they might know they need, they might think they need they might feel they need, they might not even have it articulated as a need to themselves in any form. And they’re just being pushed by some pain, some ache some some thing in their life that doesn’t feel or isn’t perceived the way that they want it to be perceived in their hearts and their minds and their lives. To pain pushes until vision pulls what a coach can do. And obviously when you say that loud, it makes perfect sense. One of the key elements of a coach’s guidance is the vision they provide. I say provide, but I think I must speak there. It’s more reveal. Because there’s in that in that coaches guidance, there’s typically much much, much less of I’m bringing you some vision from outside yourself and much, much, much more of I am helping you to see the vision that you already have in your heart in your mind, I’m helping to basically focus your vision so that you can see what I can see when I look at your life. And what you can kind of tell is there. It’s almost like I mean stock. This is not quite a one to one metaphor, but it’s like, you know, going with going your life through your whole life without glasses or whatever and getting like, you know, corrected vision surgery or getting a really excellent pair of glasses.

And all of a sudden the you know, the tree that you used to see in the park that was just a beautiful tree, but was just kind of like a tree it was like the singular unit and you put these glasses on or you see with this new vision, this new focus. And you can see the leaves moving into when you see the individual branches. You see the little squirrel up there having a good time with his nuts, he’s gathered all day. I might be speaking from personal experience, I wear glasses right now I remember the first time I got glasses, it was miraculous. But I think about the way a coach provides that vision that can really replace the pain that might be driving someone and the vision could come in and help to pull them on to what’s next. And that’s in the form of motivation and momentum and all sorts of other stuff that kind of comes with this. But I love how simple and clean this quote is, with its wisdom, how it kind of distills a lot of what makes really good coaching. So powerful pain pushes until vision pulls. I’ll leave it there. I could have ramble about this subject for quite a long time, it’s gonna be with me, it’ll probably come up if we talk in the not too distant future. It’ll probably come up in one form or another. I just find it to be a very elegant way to express a very voluminous and deep concept that I feel like is right at the heart of coaching. So anyway, I will leave you with that pain pushes until vision pulls and I will talk to you again very soon.